Where we go to: Discovering your resources

When life feels overwhelming for children, they might struggle to figure out where to turn or what to do. This is where taking time to reflect on their resources. But what exactly are resources? Simply put, resources are the people, places, and objects that children turn to for support during difficult times. By recognising these resources, children can develop a better understanding of how to navigate life’s challenges.

Resources can be divided into two categories: internal and external.

External resources include the people, places, and objects outside of us that offer help, comfort, or a sense of security. For example:

People: Parents, siblings, friends, teachers, or even a trusted coach.

Places: A cosy spot at home, a favourite park, or the local library.

Objects: A beloved cuddly toy, a treasured book, or a soothing blanket.

Internal resources are the strengths, qualities, and feelings within us that we can draw upon. These might include:

Personal traits: Creativity, curiosity, resilience, or a sense of humour.

Experiences: Happy memories, moments of achievement, or times when they felt brave.

Beliefs: Faith, hope, or a strong sense of values.

How to Explore Resources Together: Get creative

You can help your child identify these supports in a fun and creative way. Start by drawing a simple circle on a sheet of paper. Inside the circle, encourage your child to think about and add their internal resources. On the outside of the circle, they can add external resources. This exercise doesn’t have to involve writing, your child can draw or use stickers to represent their resources instead.

This simple activity not only helps children recognise what supports them but also creates an opportunity to discuss how they can use these resources when they feel stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed. If your child finds it difficult to identify their resources, this exercise can serve as a chance for both of you to reflect together on what they might need.